Joy is hard.

Let’s be honest about that.
Joy is hard to feel.
Hard to define.
Hard to make space for.

Sometimes even hard to afford—with our time, energy, or money.
We live in a world that feeds us the opposite:

• News cycles built on outrage
• TV shows that thrive on pain
• Algorithms that reward harm and conflict over care and calm

Even our tech is optimized for discontent.

So when you start talking about joy—really talking about it—people either dismiss you or roll their eyes.

Because we’ve been conditioned to believe that joy is naive, unserious, or self-indulgent.

That’s a lie.

And I’ve spent years trying to unlearn it. Sometimes I fail.

Here’s what I know now:
🔹 Joy is love. It’s how I show care—for myself and others.
🔹 Joy is always present. Whether I can see it or not, it’s in the room.
🔹 Joy is personal. You get to define it for yourself. No expert needed. No permission required.

So I’ve started building my own architecture for a joyful life.
It doesn’t look like a perfect day or a viral trend.
It looks like boundaries. Laughter. Play. Music. Stillness. Movement.
It looks like choosing myself—again and again.

If you’re ready to challenge the misinformation you’ve been fed about joy, start here:
✅ Ask yourself: What does joy actually look and feel like in my life?
✅ Reclaim small moments: A playlist, a ritual, a walk with no purpose
✅ Create your own definition—and protect it like it matters. Because it does.